沉迷“脸谱网” 脸谱网
时间：2019-05-21 03:28:13 来源：雅意学习网 本文已影响 人 
When Facebook started getting popular in my freshman year, I didn’t get an account because I didn’t want to get obsessed like I had been with MySpace. In sixth grade, I would waste an entire day on MySpace, spending an hour deciding which song to make my profile song and constantly checking to see if I was still on my friends’ Top 8s. I never felt like I was missing anything big not being on Facebook, just small things, like when everyone would be laughing at photos they saw online or some kind of funny status, which is something you write that everyone who’s friends with you can see.
Then one day in April of sophomore year we were supposed to wear pink to support teachers who had gotten pink slips, which meant they might get laid off. I was one of the few people not wearing pink, and when I said I didn’t have a Facebook and that was why I didn’t know, everyone looked at me like I was some weirdo stuck in the past. So I caved in1 and got a Facebook page.
That summer, I started going on Facebook every day. I would post a status of song lyrics that I liked or something witty, then happily respond to any comments I got. I would browse through other people’s photos, watch videos and read statuses. When I saw photos of people hanging out, I felt like I was there. But sometimes I’d wonder why I wasn’t invited. One Saturday afternoon, it seemed like everyone had a great time at a get-together the night before. There were pictures of them at a restaurant, the park and more. Other people seemed to be having a lot more fun than I was. I thought, why am I not more social? I also had fewer Facebook friends than other people. I had around 150 friends, while most people had more than 300. It made me feel unpopular. But I couldn’t stop going on, even though it made me feel bad, because it was addictive.
When the school year started, I checked my Facebook constantly after I got home. I’d do my homework for 30 minutes and then go on Facebook for an hour, wondering if there was anything new to look at. I was going to bed around 2 every night. My grades went from As and Bs to mostly Bs, and I even had a C in math and a D in Japanese. My parents freaked out. They asked me if I needed a tutor. I said no, because I felt guilty that they would be spending money on something that was my fault. They asked me if I was all right. I said yes, even though I was starting to feel creepy2. Why did I care so much about what people I didn’t even know that well were doing?
Then near the end of October a girl wrote a story in our school newspaper about how maybe some people who were obsessed with Facebook had low self-esteem. That sounded like me. I hadn’t thought I was obsessed with Facebook because I had low self-esteem. I thought it was the opposite: because I was vain. I thought that the more people commented and “liked” my statuses or photos, the more they must like me. The article helped me see that I would rather think about other people’s lives than my own, and it was sad, like even I didn’t think of myself as worth paying attention to.
I felt bad because I was comparing my life to others’online lives, but what I didn’t realize was that people want others to think they’re living exciting lives. No one is going to post pictures of being bored. It was dangerous to judge myself against such an unrealistic standard. I’m different online too. On Facebook I always seem like I’m in a good mood. I don’t want people to think that I’m a whiny3 person. It’s easier to project a personality that I want people to think I have. I could be wittier in my comments than I was in person because I could think before I typed them. I think people shouldn’t take the image people project on Facebook too literally. It’s not realistic.
I don’t think people should get rid of their Facebook pages. It’s impractical because a lot of people use it for school and everyone’s on it. To keep from going on so much, I use a site blocker, an application that blocks any websites you choose. I found one called StayFocusd that allowed me to set a limit of two minutes a day on Facebook. When I try to stay on longer than two minutes, the page disappears, a white screen takes its place and it says: “Shouldn’t you be working?” Those four words always seem to come when I’m about to be sucked in again.
Now that I’m on Facebook less, I have time to do things that are more important. I hang out in the living room with my family instead of being cooped up in my room, and I go out with my friends instead of making lame excuses so I can log onto Facebook. I’ve stopped using Facebook to measure my popularity. It’s just a fun distraction. Sometimes I still feel insecure, but it’s less because of Facebook and more of a teen thing.
I still have the two-minute limit on Facebook, although I turn it off sometimes on the weekends. I know it’s for the best, because I want to live my life, not relive someone else’s. S
我大学一年级时 “脸谱网” 开始流行起来，当时我并没有注册账号，因为我不想像曾经对MySpace一样对它着迷。六年级的时候，我会在MySpace浪费一整天，花一个小时来决定用哪首歌当我的主页背景音乐，还不断查看我是否依然位居我朋友们（关注列表）的前八名。我从来不觉得不上“脸谱网”会错过什么大事，都是些小事，比如有时大家会因为在网站上看到的照片或者某个有趣的状态而哈哈大笑，状态是你（在自己的页面上）写的一些东西，只要加你为好友的人都能看到。
后来大学二年级四月份的一天，我们本应穿上粉色衣服支持拿到粉色纸条的老师们，拿到粉色纸条就意味着他们可能会被解雇。只有为数不多的人没有穿粉色衣服，而我就是其中之一。当我说我是因为没有“脸谱网”账号而不知道这件事时，所有人都用异样的眼神看着我，就好像我是被困在过去的怪人。所以我投降了，申请了一个“脸谱网”主页。
那个夏天，我开始每天登陆“脸谱网”。我会发布我喜欢的歌词或趣事来更新状态，然后开心地回复我收到的所有评论。我会浏览其他人的照片、观看视频、阅读状态信息。当我看到别人一起出去玩的照片，我觉得如身临其境一般。不过，有时我会纳闷为什么我没有收到邀请。一个周六的下午，似乎所有人都在前一晚的聚会上玩得很开心。网页上有他们在饭店、公园和其他地方的照片。别人似乎比我开心得多。我想，为什么我的社交没有那么广泛呢？我在“脸谱网”的好友也比别人少。我有大概150个好友，但大部分人都有三百多个。这让我觉得自己不受欢迎。但是，即使这让我感觉很糟，我也无法停止继续上“脸谱网”，因为这是一种瘾。
学年开始的时候，我到家就不断查看我的“脸谱网”主页。我用30分钟做作业，然后花一个小时上“脸谱网”，想知道有没有新鲜事可以看。我每天晚上都差不多两点才睡觉。我的成绩从A和B降到了几乎都是B，甚至我的数学还得了个C，日语得了个D。我父母吓坏了。他们问我是否需要家教。我说不需要，因为他们要为我的错误花费金钱，这让我觉得愧疚。他们问我是否一切顺利，我说是的，尽管我开始感到害怕。为什么我会那么在乎我甚至都不怎么认识的人们在做什么呢？
后来，临近十月末时，一个女孩在我们校报上写了一个关于某些沉迷“脸谱网”的人可能是由于自卑的故事。那个故事听起来就像在说我。我从来没有想过我沉迷于“脸谱网”是因为我自卑。我以为正相反：是因为我自负。我认为越多的人评论和“喜欢”我的状态或者照片，他们肯定就越喜欢我。这篇文章帮我看清，我宁可思考别人的生活也不考虑自己的，这很悲哀，就像是甚至我自己都不觉得自己值得别人关注。
我感到难过，是因为我在拿自己的生活跟别人的网上生活作对比，但是我没有意识到，人们都希望别人认为自己过着精彩的生活。没有人会发布自己生活无聊的照片。以这样不现实的标准来评价自己是危险的。我在网络上也与平时不同。在“脸谱网”上，我看起来总是心情很好。我不想让别人觉得我是个牢骚鬼。在网上更容易设计一种我想让别人认为我拥有的性格。（网上）评论的时候我比生活中的自己要机智得多，因为打字之前我可以先进行思考。我认为，我们不能过于死板地相信别人在“脸谱网”上表现出来的形象。那并不真实。
我并不认为人们应该抛弃自己的“脸谱网”页面。这不现实，因为很多人用它是为了学校的事，毕竟所有人都在上边。为了防止继续在网站上花那么多时间，我使用了网站拦截器，一种屏蔽你选择的任何网站的应用程序。我找到了一个叫“集中注意力”的拦截器，它可以让我在“脸谱网”设置一天两分钟的时限。当我试图停留两分钟以上时，页面就会消失，取而代之的是一个白屏，上面写着：“该工作了！”那四个字似乎总是在我又要沉浸其中的时候就跳出来了。
现在我上“脸谱网”的时间短了，我有时间去做更重要的事情了。我会在客厅与家人共聚，而不是禁闭在自己的房间里；我会跟朋友一起出去，而不是找各种蹩脚的借口来登陆“脸谱网”。我不再用“脸谱网”来衡量我的受欢迎程度。它只是一种散心娱乐的方式罢了。有时我仍会缺乏安全感，但极少是由于“脸谱网”引起的，更多是青春期的缘故。
我对“脸谱网”仍然设置两分钟时限，尽管周末有时会把它关掉。我知道最好是使用时限，因为我想要过自己的生活，而非重复别人的生活。S
